Waiting For ‘Mr Right” To Show Up?… In The Meantime, What Are You Doing?

There has been an increase in the publicity of marriage, ‘love’, romance, ‘#relationshipgoals’ lately and every girl just wants to get married so badly! Being single is like being in a deep dark dungeon with no ray of light in sight… and oh social media makes it even worse! We see all the ‘relationship goals’ tagged photos, the artistic drawings and memes, the pre-wedding, post-wedding and during-wedding photos, the declarations of love, the perfect wedding ceremonies, and of course the really cute babies and we fantasize of a ‘perfect married life’, we get desperate for marriage and to be ‘in love’ – notice I put ‘in love’ in quotes?  –  That’s a topic for another day. But hold on for a second and let’s talk this over.

Being married is a beautiful gift and of course there is nothing wrong with desiring to be married. God designed marriage and the bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing (Proverbs 18:22)

 But while you are waiting to be found by the right man what are you doing with your single years?

You surely do not want to waste this time sulking, being miserable and unproductive! It definitely isn’t a time to sit around waiting for life to start when you marry.

 You have a purpose for your life and your purpose does not change whether you are married or single.

I was at that point in my life a while ago where I thought I was only going to be able to live my life to the fullest when I got married; I was in love with the idea of being in love and marriage seemed to be the gateway to paradise. I was so wrong and thank God he put me back on track!

So while waiting what can you do and what mindset should you keep? Here are a few points on how to maximize your single years while waiting for marriage;

 

1. Get Closer To God
   

You need to have an intimate relationship with God before any other person. Fall in love with Him first; make Him your best friend. Spend alone time with Him and learn to listen to His voice.

When your relationship with God is in the right place, every other relationship in your life will fall in place.

You will realize you will develop a bigger heart and you will have pure and genuine love for others, the kind of love Paul describes in 1Cor 13:4-7.

2. Get to know your purpose and work at it

Like I mentioned above, you have a purpose for your life, there is a task God has appointed to you and you are going to give account for that when he comes again.

The first purpose you have as a Christian is to fear God and keep his commandments (Ecclesiastes 12:13).

Then you have a particular role to play on God’s vineyard. Paul said in 1Cor 3:6; ‘I planted the seed, Apollos watered it…’ they had different roles to play even though the common purpose was to serve God. You need to find your ministry, that which God has gifted you with to serve others and to serve him, and work at it whether you are married or single.

If you have not found out what your purpose is yet, pray to God and ask him to show you. Desire to know and seek answers, read books and articles by Spirit filled men and women of God and the answer will surely be revealed to you.

3. Get To Know Yourself

Who are you?… Sometimes we don’t even know who we are. You have to know who you are before you try to figure out someone else – and this is also related to finding your purpose because only when you know who you are before you can know your purpose.

Get to know your strengths and weaknesses, your highs and lows, likes and dislikes, your vision and what exactly it is you want to be in life so when you get married, you do not get lost in the shadow of your husband.

4. Get Ready

I had to ask myself a genuine question some time ago. I desire marriage and would love to be married someday but I had to ask myself ‘ARE YOU READY?’… and the honest answer to that question was NO! I realized I had been asking God for something I was not ready for.

Marriage is more than the glamorous wedding dress and beautiful wedding ceremony. It goes beyond feelings of attraction and romance.

You have to be prepared spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally for marriage. If you have an uncontrollable temper now, that isn’t going to go away automatically after marriage, if you don’t have healthy hygiene habits now, that isn’t going to go away either!

So start working on yourself now. Change any bad habits you have and develop good ones. Research shows it takes twenty-one days to develop a new habit…girl that means in one year you can develop at least seventeen new habits!

Now is the time to work on you sister. Let the Proverbs 31 wife be the kind of wife you strife to be like.

 

Proverbs 18:22: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord”

Be a good thing indeed when he finds you sister!

 

Remain Blessed