Seven Types of Guys Every Single Girl Should Beware Of

Being a single girl who desires marriage is not always so easy. Especially with pressure from family, friends and society, it could get really frustrating sometimes and might make you want to jump right into the next available relationship or settle for the ‘next best thing’. Truth is it is better to remain single than to be in the wrong relationship.

Even though keeping over-the-top standards and waiting for a ‘perfect’ guy to show up is not advised (because really, girl there’s no such thing as a perfect guy!), you still shouldn’t go way under and compromise on certain things. So if you looking to get out of the ‘single zone’, here are seven types of guys you should beware of

1. The Unsaved Guy.

 As a Christian girl, dating should be very intentional and not just for fun. So if you are going to court someone looking to marry them someday, you should consider whether they are saved or not. The bible makes it clear that we shouldn’t be ‘unequally yoked’ with unbelievers (2Cor 6:14). Sometimes it is tempting when you come across a nice guy with good moral values and a kind heart. Truth is if he isn’t saved (that is accepts Jesus Christ as his Lord and savior), it isn’t advised for you to be with him. Also, don’t try to do the Holy Spirit’s job and think you can save him by dating him; you can’t save anyone, that’s not your job

2. The Insecure Guy.

  You should also beware of the guy who has so many insecurities about himself and about his position in your life, who is going to doubt everything you say and is unreasonably jealous of your other relationships with your friends and family. Such a guy is going to project his insecurities on you and you’ll find that you are always trying to validate yourself or trying to prove your sincerity and honesty.

3. The Guy With an Uncontrollable Temper. 

This is a huge red flag and you should be careful to notice this and run while you can. An angry guy with a hot temper could probably get abusive and you shouldn’t put yourself through any kind of abuse whether verbal or physical. Observe how he reacts when put off or when under pressure, a guy who is going to be ready to throw a fist at any given moment has anger issues and you should watch out for that.

4. The Always-sorry-but-never-changing Guy. 

These are those guys who commit the same sin over and over again and each time they say sorry and promise never to do it again but then just go right back to it the very next opportunity they get. They are putting in no effort to try to change; just empty talk and no action. This is a sign of indiscipline and lack of self-control; you should beware of such guys.

5. The Ever-compromising Guy.

 In a godly relationship, you’re supposed to help build each other in every way. A guy who is always going to compromise and try to make you compromise too on your Christian values such as trying to lead you into sexual sin or taking you to places you know you probably shouldn’t be going to or just bringing temptation your way is a red flag. You should watch out for such guys who will take you farther away from God instead of leading you closer to Him.

6. The Controlling Guy. 

A guy who is going to try make decisions for you; try to control how you spend your time, who you spend your time with, the places you go to or try to control any other thing concerning your life is a danger sign. If a guy is going to try to control you while he’s courting you, you’re probably going to be in bondage marrying such a guy.

7. The Self-absorbed Guy.

Greek mythology tells a story of a guy called Narcissus from where the word narcissist comes from. Narcissus had very good looks and one day he caught his own reflection in a river as he walked by and fell in love with himself; he couldn’t leave the river side and eventually died from sorrow at the river banks because he could not obtain the object of his desire (which was his own reflection). A narcissist is definitely a guy you should beware of. A guy who is obsessed with his appearance and physical features, who can’t get enough of his ‘greatness’ and muscles is a sign of trouble brewing ahead. Yes I’m sure any girl wouldn’t mind some muscle on a guy but if he is obsessed with that and pays way too much attention to how he looks, you should beware of such a guy.

Sometimes we get impatient waiting for marriage and our impatience could lead us into a hell of a marriage. The wisest thing to do is to wait for the guy who is in love with the Lord and who is going to love you just as Christ loves the church. While waiting ask God to give you wisdom to make the right choices about any relationship, patience to wait and trust Him with your future.

Romans 8:28 ‘And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.’

Remain Blessed

Apiseh