In our previous write up on dealing with brokenness, we highlighted the dictionary definition of brokenness which is “a state of strong emotional pain that stops someone from living a normal or healthy life”. We also established that it is vital to deal with the brokenness, so that you can reawaken every lost hope, dream or assignment because one of the reasons why many people do not arise to fulfill their God given plans and visions is because they are suffering from brokenness as a result of past experiences. You can click this link… to read more on our previous write-up.
Our focus in this write-up is on Acknowledging brokenness as a vital step in dealing with brokenness. The state of brokenness is a consequence of the unhealthy pain and weights we bear from adverse past experiences and if not dealt with can hinder us from living healthy and fulfilling life’s purpose. But how can we deal with brokenness if we do not acknowledge it and find help? We may be in the state of brokenness but we can’t find help or healing because we try to cover or soothe the situation. Trying to hide or soothe the brokenness today is only accumulating weights and preparing for future disaster. A friend told me that “Skeletons thrive in the dark!”
I remember a long time ago in life when I was going through some serious issues which caused me so broken inside. In order to soothe my pain, I will put up all kind of quotes on my social media handles about the situation hoping that the people whom I thought caused me much pain were reading and know that despite all odds, I was fine. Sometimes I will even post very happy pictures of myself and this was in the name of “oppressing my enemies”. Posting happy pictures is not bad but my motive at this point was what mattered because after all the social media stuff I did, the people concerned may have seen it but did not even bother to respond back. After doing all that, I still felt that same brokenness deep inside and all I did was cry out my frustrations in my room when alone. Have you been in a similar situation? That was my case but there are some other ways which we try to soothe our pain such as excessive drinking, taking hard drugs, getting into unhealthy relationships as a means to cover up for hurt in former relationships etc. Try to reflect and see if these things really bring the lasting solutions we need.
My dear friend, I know it’s hard. You feel so broken. Reading through this you can say “They do not really understand.” I am writing this because I too have been a broken girl but I found help in Jesus Christ and through the people God surrounded me with who helped me.
Remember “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)
There is a young lady who is recently on many platforms speaking about her experience of being a victim of rape in several circumstances. She shared how she hid this pain for so long such that it caused her to be a very angry person and felt like she was not good enough and life was not even worth living. This situation had broken her so much such that she was even afraid to meet and talk with people. On a certain day, an older woman visited a setting where she had to counsel young ladies and the young lady who had been raped was in this setting. Through interactions with the counselor, the young lady who had been raped opened up and shared her story and cried out her pain in front of this elderly woman. The elderly woman prayed for this young lady, counselled her through the situation and healing process, encouraged her about what to do to start over again. This lady who was raped went through the healing process and did what could be termed “starting her life all over”. This young lady pursued her education, got international opportunities and is happily married with children. Today she shares her story on different platforms and helps other girls who faced with similar situations.
Are you facing some situations which break you? The solution is not in trying to soothe the pain. Acknowledge this situation you are in and get help. In subsequent write-ups, we would continue the talk on how to deal with brokenness but let me testify that where you will find ultimate help is in Jesus Christ. Jesus loves even broken people and reading through the New Testament in the Bible, I see how one encounter with Jesus changed the life of people who could be termed “broken” and these people lived fulfilled life’s and their names are recorded in the bible as references because of their good deeds.
The story of the Samaritan woman recorded in the bible (John 4:4-42)is a lesson on how acknowledging our brokenness and casting our cares on Jesus Christ leads to salvation, freedom from bondage, healing and restoration such that we can walk in purpose.
The Samaritan woman went to draw water from well where she met Jesus Christ. At first, the Samaritan woman hesitated to interact with Jesus because of boundaries put in place human philosophies. She did not tell her issues to Jesus Christ but Jesus is God and is all knowing so he revealed to her the adverse experience she had with men. Jesus revealed that this woman had actually experienced breakups with five men and she was with the sixth man who was still not her husband. Despite the situations she had been through, she acknowledged that what Jesus had said about her experience with men was true, she opened up and got deeper revelations about Jesus Christ. After her encounter with Jesus Christ, we notice a woman who had suffered heart breaks from men being transformed to a great evangelist who spread the news about Jesus. It is recorded that many Samaritans believed in Jesus Christ because of this woman’s testimony about her encounter with Jesus who told her everything she had ever done. So through this woman, many more people went to Jesus, heard his words and believed that Jesus Christ is the Savior of the World. Yes, the Samaritan woman was apparently broken with her past experiences. Yes, she was limited by societal ideologies but what she did not know is that she was a great evangelist. She met Jesus, acknowledged her situation, was healed and restored to fulfill purpose.
Dear friend, your case is not different. Jesus Christ already knows all you have experienced and have ever done and he is ready to help you. What are you waiting for you? Go to God in prayer. Cry out your pain. Tell him about your brokenness, even those hidden secrets you have which no one knows, you can cast them to Jesus Christ for He cares. This is the fundamental way of dealing with brokenness.
By the help of the Holy Spirit We would be opening up more on dealing with brokenness in the weeks ahead through our write ups. Please read and share to bless others.
Remain Blessed.